LETTER FOR MONDAY, MAY 17, 2010:
“Stories from the Frontlines: Letters to President Barack Obama” is a new media campaign launched to underscore the urgent need for congressional action and presidential leadership at this critical point in the fight to repeal “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT). Every weekday morning as we approach the markup of the Defense Authorization bill in the Senate and House Armed Services Committees, SLDN and a coalition of voices supporting repeal, will share an open letter to the President from a person impacted by this discriminatory law. We are urging the President to include repeal in the Administration’s defense budget recommendations, but also to voice his support as we work to muster the 15 critical votes needed on the Senate Armed Services Committee to include repeal. The Defense Authorization bill represents the best legislative vehicle to bring repeal to the president’s desk. It also was the same vehicle used to pass DADT in 1993. By working together, we can help build momentum to get the votes! We ask that you forward and post these personal stories.
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May 17, 2010
President Barack H. Obama
The White House
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue Northwest
Washington, DC 20500
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Dear Mr. President, I am a proud Army veteran of the first Gulf War. You won’t find anyone who loves this country more. I get chills and teary eyes, every time I hear the Pledge of Allegiance or The Star Spangled Banner. I’ve been known to call a business when I see them flying a tattered flag to let them know that if that’s all the pride they have in the American flag, they should just take it down. I am also a proud lesbian. I joined the military in 1989, before “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT) was enacted and when there was an outright ban on gays and lesbians in the military. I did not realize at the time that I was a lesbian, but later, when I did come to terms with my being gay, I never tried to hide it, but I did not flaunt it either. My sexual orientation was a non-issue. I was a hard charging soldier, promoted long before my peers.
I am sure there was talk behind my back about me being a lesbian, but no one ever seemed to care. I was a good friend, soldier, and leader; everyone I encountered could have cared less about what happened in my private life. After DADT was passed, I started to hear stories about people being discharged. I struggled with this every day, always fearful that I would be next. Eventually, the stress of constant fear that I could lose my job no matter how hard I worked or how well I performed, became too much. I knew from the stories of others that even serving to the very best of my ability could cost me my job. I knew that an anonymous tip—by someone who was jealous of my success, angry with me because of a disagreement, or mad because I rebuffed a sexual advance—could trigger a demoralizing, demeaning investigation under DADT. And if I was not willing to lie, I knew an investigation could lead to my discharge. I was lucky, though. I did not get kicked out, but that does not mean that DADT didn’t affect me. The uncertainty and fear of knowing that anyone with a grudge could end my career, and the sadness in realizing that at any time my country could callously discard me for no other reason than the fact that I was gay, pressured me to give up the career I loved. I chose not to reenlist.
There are days when it is hard for me not to walk into the nearest recruiting station and sign back up. I watch what is happening in Iraq and Afghanistan and it’s hard for me to think about not being there with the men and women I served with in the first Gulf War. I have to remind myself why I chose not to reenlist. Defending our country in uniform is one of the greatest privileges and responsibilities of being an American. Many people do not appreciate that; many take our freedoms for granted; and many do not choose to serve. We cannot afford to lose those who want to serve, who have the necessary skills and work ethic, and who would risk their lives for their comrades and their country. Mr. President, in your State of the Union Address, you said that the American people are not quitters. I did not quit on my country during the first Gulf War and I would serve again if called. There are at least 66,000 gays and lesbians serving right now who do not want to quit, either. Mr. President, please don’t quit on them. Please do everything in your power to end DADT this year. We are counting on you.
Respectfully, Former Sgt. Shonda Garrison United States Army
For decades Europe was looking up to the US being a far modern and “advanced” society. Americans in European media were always depicted as liberal, educated and open minded. It’s sad to see ultra Catholic countries like Belgium, France, Spain, and since yesterday Portugal, voting Yes on gay marriage, Yes on equality of all its citizens, Yes on a better future for everyone, while in the US gay people still have to hide.
The European Union (and its 27 Member States) holds a very high standard when it comes to human and personal rights.
Perhaps it’s time for the US to take a close look on what’s going on across the Atlantic.
-Mag. phil. Petros Kartides,
Conference Interpreter
European Commission
Brussels, Belgium
@Petros
Since I spend a lot of time in Europe due to my business, I’ve noticed that there is a huge difference between large urban areas like those of Paris, London, Berlin or Madrid where a gay person can really feel accepted and respected, and rural areas like those in Poland, Hungary, Estonia or Malta, which are also Member States of the EU, but where the issues of Gay Rights still cause a heated debate. The same goes for the US. It’s one thing to be gay in NYC or LA, but another story for those living in Hazelhurst, Mississippi.
Stories from the Front Lines should be required reading for all GLBT folks. Each presents a unique story and glimpse into a different facet of the military. Each is a heart-wrenching story.
Lets hope they represent profound impact on President Obama!
Mr. Manning – thanks for being you! It’s people like you, and your mom, that put a smile on my face! Thanks
hey i am daniel capps i am having some peoples in my town with being gay and stuff and i honor of what you are doing i live in a town where gays are not represtanted as people and i would love to sit down and talk to you face to face or even over the phone to ask some questions and i wanted you to talk at this thing i am setting up for HRC i let other things on facebook and post comments i am hoping you answer this but my email is cappsdanny@embarqmail.com
hoping to hear from you soon if i can i will give you my number so we can set up a meet so you can speak on this thing that we are hoping to do everything will be paid for the 2 days you are here and you will only have to pay for stuff you want to take home and food lol i am hopign to hear back so we can talk about me and about this thing i wish you could talk at if you would thx danny
ps you are a real inspiration and you get through the days at times
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